It is always advisable to have an open mind when it comes to motherhood… i say this because, sometimes, the things we wish for might not always come as we thought it would or as we planned.
After I had my daughter, I was still recovering & my breastmilk wasn’t flowing. The hospital I had her in, had meal plans for patients so meals weren’t brought from outside. As a result, I couldn’t take pap or anything to influence my breastmilk flow.
The hospital asked for formula to be bought for her feeding. That’s how the journey of my daughter being “formula-fed” started.
After i was discharged, my breastmilk started to flow, but my daughter had gotten so used to the formula that she refused to take breastmilk. You can imagine how sad and worried I felt!!! I had learnt all through my antenatal classes that “you must exclusively breastfeed your child for the 1st six months”. You know how those nurses & matrons “instill” fear in you about the dangers your baby is exposed to if not exclusively breastfed?
After several trials, she would take breastmilk and compliment with formula. This went on till she was about five months and then she wasn’t interested in taking breastmilk anymore. She started taking pap and purees along with her formula.
I remember vividly when I took my daughter for her three months immunization, one of the matrons on duty who gave health talks each time we had an appointment, discovered I was bottle-feeding my daughter & she spoke to me in a very mean tone…asking me why I wasn’t breastfeeding her, that i am amongst those mothers who are raising “spoilt” children etc etc…I could go on and on about this but trust me, I wasn’t even interested in explaining my birth story that triggered this outcome because her manner of approach was unwelcoming. I took it all in my stride & smiled at her “outburst”, but I was very embarrased to say the least.
After I got home, trust a mother to worry, I started to google and read up on the side effects of not exclusively breastfeeding your baby…what I was seeing didn’t appeal to me so I stopped. I called my mom to also explain my worries to her and then she told me of a story of a woman who delivered a set of triplets via a csection, as a result of her experience, she couldn’t breastfeed her babies, her doctor advised her to start to give them pap. Fortunately, they accepted it with formula and they were perfectly healthy. This sort of gave me an assurance that my daughter is healthy. Then, I came to the conclusion that as long as I was raising a healthy baby, that is all that mattered.
It is important that before you ridicule a mom for any reason, find out the “why” because each mom has her own experience with motherhood.
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